Issit true when people say that when two people are close friends, both parties actually do not really have to put in a lot of effort to maintain the relationship anymore? I really beg to differ from this statement.

True enough that probably the input of efforts need not be that big but I think it has to be constant. It like in a courtship, when a guy is courting a girl, he has to put in huge efforts to make the girl feel special or whatsoever to move the girl's heart and gain her trust. When the relationship got kicked started and became more stable, things becoming more normal as both parties are learning about each other and to live together. Of course, with occasional surprises to spice things up. Likewise, I think it is the same for friendship? As in, how can a special friend still be the special one when the way you treat this friend is the same as other friends? And how can you deemed this friend as your close friend if the amount of time spend is the same or lesser than others. Or the degree of things shared is so surface like stuff that is going on?

I agree that sometimes, between two close friends, certain things need not be put into words and the other parties should understand or when they hang out, there need not be many activities or conversations as they are just enjoying each other company. On top of all these, as life gets busier and more people enter; the frequencies of both parties meeting up are getting lesser with wider time spread apart. Will it result in the relationship being reduced to a state that there is really nothing much to share about? Or one doesn't know where and how to start from?

Is a close friend like a notice/event board that one only turns to when there is significant or big events to share? Or like a dustbin when one turns to, to pour out all the negative feelings of an event? Or like a treasure box when one turns to, to share the joyous feeling of the event? Or like a safe box for one to turn to, to share secrets?

By doing so, does it mean that the friendship is healthily going on? Probably to some extend but from another angle, I will think that the friendship maybe in danger zone.If a close friend is to be all that, wouldn't that means that a lot of the sharing are based on event after event. It's like a friendship makeup of different parts after parts without the 'gluing substance' which is one's everyday life. Probably not a need to share about every day, unless both really wanna be BFF like those in the movies. Hur. But what I'm trying to drive here is that, if two people are close because the share about significant events after events, then they aren't really into which other life because the typical day parts are missing.

Also, what happened if all these are majorly done by only one party (the issue of different degree/ love bank balance mentioned in previous post) or either one person chose to walk out or gave up sowing into the friendship?

Lisa mentioned about having the maturity to come to a point to sow and not expect to reap or have any response. But can mankind really do that? Can one really just keep sowing and not expect any response?

A quote from Moulin Rouge-" The greatest thing is to love and be loved."
Can a person really love and carry on without even being loved back? Most of the time, I don't really see any successful case but only those that ends with sad ending, mostly anger, separation or death.

Hmmm...

Edit- Cal says her lastest post was inspired by me and likewise, after reading her post, I think what I've mentioned above is applicable to our relationship with God also. We should not seek Him and only pray when we need His help in events in our life but we should always communicate with Him daily regarding everything that is going on in our lifes.